Can you Fall in Love Because of Food?

To quote so many of our adoring mothers, “the best way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.” Whether it’s trying new adventurous dining places or specifically ordering famed aphrodisiacs to set the culinary mood, it’s no secret that food plays a big part in relationships. It can expose you to your loved one’s culture, their likes and dislikes and even help to build long lasting memories. Since we all need food to survive it’s a wonderful way to expand your knowledge of your loved one while trying new things. However, the age old question is still being asked; can you fall in love because of food?

To get the ball rolling in your exploration of food and love, try beginning with an assorted cheese platter. Cheese while it is delicious, is also full of zinc which can help to boost your sex drive. While the wives’ tales that surround aphrodisiacs can be hard to prove, with cheese the proof is right in the content of it’s make up. Other types of food that increase libido include clams, chocolate, pomegranate juice, and pumpkin seeds!

Besides the scientific reasoning’s behind food being correlated with love, it also can be a way for you and the person you’re dating to find common ground. One of the most difficult aspects about long term relationships is the fact that after a while, the excitement can begin to fade and the passion grows dull. To spice up the relationship (pun entirely intended) try exploring new foods with your significant other. You can plan a date night where you spend the evening sipping on wine and cooking together side by side or if you’re feeling more of a night-on-the-town, you can make reservations at a restaurant you’ve never tried before. Dull meals can make for a dull relationship so when you’re deciding on what or where to eat, try to pick something that interests you both or something you wouldn’t normally try. That way, even if you hate the taste you’ll still have a wonderful memory of being with your loved one. Since everyone has to eat, food is a great excuse to try something new.

Whether you give it up to science or simply the fact that meals can give you more time together, food can be a huge help when it comes to falling in love. So, the next time you’re tempted to order take out think again and maybe instead try something new with your culinary explorations. When it comes down to it, your relationship will be as successful as the effort you put into it. Spending a night cooking for or with your significant other while snacking on the libido boosting foods is a sure fire way to rev up your love life and send you speeding in the right direction.

 

How to Tell if He Likes You

As women, we aren’t super receptive when it comes to taking hints from guys unless they’re extremely direct and even then we may not fully believe that they like us in a romantic way. Since we all could use a little help figuring out whether or not the guy we’re into sees us as more than just a friend, here are the top five ways of how to tell if he likes you:

#1. He remembers personal details about your life. I know we all are searching for our prince charming to whisk us away into the sunset and tell us how beautiful we are 24/7, but we’re here to tell you to instead look for the prince who listens. While you may not think that him knowing how you take your coffee or where you grew up is an important thing in such early stages, it shows that he pays attention to you and cares about the details of your life.

#2. He texts you back within a reasonable amount of time. It’s time for us to stop making excuses and start facing reality. If he isn’t responding to your “how was your day?” text until 48 hours later, he probably isn’t really into you. While we have to be realistic about this we also need to remember that people get busy. If it’s been 30 minutes and he hasn’t responded, don’t panic! He might be at the gym or grocery shopping or just not on his phone at the time. Instead of throwing in the towel right away, give him a chance to respond and maybe even talk to you about what he was busy doing.

#3. He begins to casually insert you into his future plans. Now ladies, we aren’t saying he’s dropping hints of proposals or anything, but maybe there’s a band coming around this summer that he knows you like and he mentions going together. That is a GOOD sign! This means that he likes you to the point where he wants to spend more time together and sees himself still being in your life a good time away from now.

#4. He pays attention to you. Now we know we’ve already sort of covered this, but now we want to be more direct. This means that while you’re talking, he’s entirely focused on what you’re saying, he’s engaged and participating in the conversation and he’s attention isn’t wandering to the nearby television or guys down the hall joking around.

#5. He’s nervous or shy about when you’ll be seeing each other again. While we would all love to believe we’re completely progressive when it comes to dating, it’s still fairly common that the man will ask out the woman. This puts a lot of pressure on them and can make them nervous. If he’s anxious and asking when you’ll hang out again or is constantly confirming plans that’s a pretty good sign that he’s into you.

How to Handle Long Distance

It’s no secret that long distance relationships are more difficult to be in and that time and distance can take its toll. However, all is not lost. Here are the top five ways of how to handle long distance relationships:

#1. Communication is key. We know that this is something that every single relationship rides on however, it is even more important for those who are in long distance relationships. Since you won’t be able to see each other every day it’s important that you take the time to speak with each other regularly. Keeping each other in the loop and talking about what is going on during your day will help you stay connected even if you can’t be right there.

#2. Don’t go overboard. While it’s great to make sure your significant other knows how you feel about them and that you communicate well, it’s also important not to virtually smother them. Constantly texting and calling each other can make you grown to feel overwhelmed and annoyed with the constant presence which can take its toll on your relationship. Instead, work out a plan where you call each other a few times a week, text on and off throughout the days, and sprinkle in some video chatting times. You can even plan your video chats to be “long-distance-date-nights” to keep the romantic side alive. This will keep you in the loop with each other without feeling annoyed.

#3. Visit each other often. Distance may make the heart grow fonder but too much distance can lead to the end of a relationship. Plan out days when you’ll be able to come and visit each other. Visiting will give you a sneak peek into their life without you right by their side and will also help you not miss them as furiously. Spontaneity will keep the flames of your relationship alive so don’t be afraid to try new places and maybe even surprise your significant other when you know they don’t have a lot going on that week.

#4. PAY ATTENTION! Again while this is a must for every relationship, distance makes this more difficult and more important. You won’t be able to see each other constantly which makes the things you talk about that much more important. Pay attention to what they are passionate about, learn about who their friends are and their favorite places to eat, and don’t be afraid to ask questions. Staying connected is as easy as you make it.

#5. Have an end in sight. Long distance can make the meet ups more passionate and make you long to see your significant other even more, but after a while the distance can become exhausting and a lot more difficult to deal with than it’s worth. Try to plan an end where you’ll both be in the same general area so the long distance relationship can simply become a relationship. If you have a goal to reach you’re more likely to work through the rough patches and make it out on the other side of the long distance relationship.

Love Lessons We’ve Learned from Celebrities

Ahh, celebrity relationships! Most of them don’t last, although a few lucky couples have had staying power in Hollywood over the years, or even decades. But whether A-list couples stay together or split with a valuable pre-nup in place, there are love lessons to be learned from celebrities.

Trust is key

It could be your man cheating on you with the nanny, like Ben Affleck supposedly did to Jennifer Garner, or Gavin Rossdale reportedly did to Gwen Stefani. There is not only a betrayal there, but somewhere, a level of trust was lost. To cheat on a partner is a clear indicator that trust is lost – and relationships without trust are much more likely to fail.

Maybe trust isn’t about cheating, but discretion. Another form of breaking or losing trust could be talking about private relationship issues in public – like John Mayer, who spoke out about intimate moments with Jessica Simpson, or Russell Brand, who was rather open about his inner thoughts on then-wife Katy Perry.

Lesson to be learned: steer clear of the guy –or girl- who you can’t trust with your phone, let alone your gorgeous friend.

Put family first

Whether it’s your own children, your relationship, or your siblings and/or parents, family has an important place in the life of some of Hollywood’s most successful celebrities. Women like Gwyneth Paltrow and Reese Witherspoon navigate careers while staying close to both their children and their parents, even through divorces on both parts and a remarriage for Witherspoon.

Garner and Affleck, for example, have worked out an amicable relationship regarding their children, while Paltrow and ex Chris Martin even continue to vacation together with their children.

And many-times-over parents Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie are much more choosy about projects they work on, prioritizing time as a family and with each other.

Of course, we can’t all be so picky about work, but we can make efforts to put family first. This leads to more love all around.

Couples like Jay-Z and Beyonce, meanwhile, spend plenty of time together behind closed doors, making their relationship #1, but don’t let the world in to see.

Lesson to be learned: even in times of crisis, or especially then, good bonds with family are more important than outside perception.

Support your partner

In the celebrity world, this means Calvin Harris posting an Instagram about how proud he is of girlfriend Taylor Swift; to some people, it could be a reminder of Ton Cruise jumping on Oprah’s talk show couch, radiant with love for then-wife Katie Holmes.

Whether your partner wants to take art lessons or go back to school or change careers, it is important to support one another for a healthy, balanced relationship.

How to have a Horrifying Date Night (In a Good Way): 10 Best Scary Movies for Dates

Does your idea of a perfect movie date mean more screaming into a bowl of popcorn than snuggling over one? If horror is more your speed for date night than romantic comedies or action thrillers, you’re not alone!

Here are just some of the best scary movies for dates:

  1. The Sixth Sense

The classic movie where Bruce Willis and Haley Joel Osment made us wonder just what, exactly, is going on, features some truly creepy scenes. The best part about these super creepy scenes? They are sure to make for some hand grabbing during the most suspenseful moments!

This movie works best if your date has never seen it before.

  1. Return of The Living Dead

Looking to inject a little humor into your horror movie viewing? Try this 80’s classic about zombies, from way back when, before zombies were the biggest craze in post-apocalyptic television, film, and literature. This movie is perfect for laughing while you scream!

  1. Night of the Living Dead

No matter which way your date goes, this one’s a classic, and well worth watching!

  1. The Shining

The relationship between Jack Torrance and his wife is far from romantic, but the movie presents enough interesting psychology conversations to stoke some enlightening discussions for the two of you!

  1. Jaws

A movie that focuses on the terror of a real world creature rather than the undead or a psychological threat, this movie tells the Captain Ahab-like tale of the Amity Island, Mass.-based fishing boat captain who doesn’t know when to quit when going up against – gasp! – a great white shark with an evil temperament.

  1. The Thing

A classic tale of mistrust and growing paranoia set in the vast emptiness of the Antarctic tundra, this movie stars a young Kurt Russel as a dashing scientist who is fighting…. The thing. But what is the thing? Or, more importantly, who?

  1. Friday the 13th

The quintessential movie for those who love thrillers, Friday the 13th has long cemented a place in the horror movie Hall of Fame. Take a stroll back to the 1980’s and visit an innocent summer camp, where chaos and murder are about to wreak havoc on some teenagers who are just having a little fun…

  1. The Blair Witch Project

Before reality TV and “mockumentary” style television like The Office were around, this movie was a fresh slice of horror delivered on a very low budget. Shot in “found-footage” style, the movie even had young Millenials questioning whether the whole thing might be real, back in the early days of the internet.

  1. Scream

A movie that is full of future well-known names (Drew Barrymore, Courteney Cox), Scream is also the perfect watch for a date night – that’s exactly what it was used for when it came out in the late 1990s.

  1. Paranormal Activity

The ultimate in “What’s going to happen next?!” emotions. If there is a movie more likely to make your date jump into your arms in suspense, share it with us in the comments!

4 Selfie Tips

It’s late on a weekend morning, and you’re scrolling through Instagram or some other social media website while sipping your morning latte. A group of girls at brunch, guys at the big game, new lovers on a date night at a cool restaurant.

In all of these diverse photos, there are probably a few things in common: posing, head tilting, selfie sticks, or an arm reaching out toward the camera – or more likely, smart phone- and one face toward the front of the photo appearing much larger than the others.

It’s time for a better selfie

Believe it or not, this is where we are, as a society. We could all use a few tips for taking a better selfie. Join us on this selfie revolution, and never cut off your own forehead again!

Four tips for taking a better selfie:

  1. Invest in a selfie stick.

There’s no getting around it – if you’re serious about your selfie game, getting your hands on a selfie stick is the right move for you. Simply attach your phone to the stick, extend, and click the button on the end of the stick that’s in your hand. Even though it may look a little silly, it’s definitely the most effective way to get a great group photo or perspective shot.

Of course, there are some places where selfie sticks should not be used – around any art, or where they could harm other people. Stay away from the edges of mountains, too…

  1. Angle your chin.

Sure, some people strike such affected poses while taking selfies that they look like Kardashians-in-training, but there are benefits to paying a little bit of attention to your face when smiling for a photo. Everything ends up on social media these days, so better to know which angle to strike for a winning photo that emphasizes your fabulousness, not your flaws. Tip: a chin-up angle is never attractive, no matter how gorgeous you are!

  1. Seek out good lighting.

Striking a pose that would make the perfect new profile picture on your Facebook page – or your dating website profile! –doesn’t do you much good if you are standing in a dimly lit space, or one filled with off-putting fluorescent lighting. The best photo lighting is outdoors during the day, especially in early morning or mid- to late-afternoon. If you really want to nail your selfie, set aside some time to snap a few photos during these well-lit hours.

  1. Have a good time!

Nothing screams “great selfie” better than someone who is having a good time and living life beyond the camera snap! Enjoy yourself, and you’ll feel great inside and out!

 

 

4 Gender Differences You May Never Have Thought of Before

Men aren’t really from Mars, and women aren’t really from Venus (at least, we think!). But when it comes to discussing gender differences, it sometimes feels like men and women are from different planets – or even on different planets while we are talking to them!

Have you ever wondered if the root of your misunderstanding or communication barrier comes down to something as simple as genetics – gender differences?

Below, find some of the gender differences that you may not have considered before:

  1. Women are literally better at the act of communication. It’s true. Not in that “I’m right and you’re wrong!” sense, but in the sense that most women actually have a larger frontal lobe, the part of your brain responsible for problem solving, than most men.

When your significant other states that she’s right – she may very well be.

Another fun fact about communication: girls, or women, tend to use more words to make a point, as males have smaller verbal centers. So ladies, don’t be so sure that he isn’t listening! Men also tend to analyze and develop task-based responses to situations or feelings being discussed, according to Psychology Today. He may just be thinking about what to do next.

  1. Society breeds expectations of certain gender standards. From the moment a new mother finds out she is expecting, questions of gender – and nursery paint color! – begin to arise. Stores like Target have announced that they will stop separating “boy” and “girl” sections for toys, but in most retail locations, things targeted at girls still tend to be pink and things targeted at boys are often blue. Who knows what little Tommy or Susie would prefer if left to his to her own devices when deciding on a product.

Maybe color choice doesn’t sound too bad, but as children grow up, they begin to fall into patterns associated with gender – which can lead to many children and adults repressing emotions or assimilating into roles they wouldn’t really choose.

How does this translate into dating? Find someone who is comfortable with him or her self, and who understands the complications of gender and society.

  1. Women worry more. Sorry to say, ladies, but Discovery News reports that, according to research from the Karolinska Institute, men produce double the amount of serotonin – a neurotransmitter with a link to depression — as women do. Women also have fewer transporters to recycle serotonin. The result? Women worry more.
  2. Men and women respond to stress differently. While a women, who is gifted in communication, may have the natural instinct to talk it out – or fight– men may be more inclined to protect their emotions, or proceed to flight – either through physically creating space or mentally withdrawing.

Understanding both one’s own and one’s partner’s needs in times of stress can be a huge relationship saver.

10 Cities Full of Sensitive Men

Many modern women – and men – can agree that finding a man who will open up to you about his emotions can sometimes be hard to do. In many cities and towns, even in 2016, men can be conditioned to regulate their emotions and hide their feelings in favor of prescribing to certain societal expectations.

Luckily, there is good news for the more emotionally inclined among us! In some cities across the United States, it’s easier to find a man who is willing to bare his soul and make a genuine connection than in others.

Seeking a sensitive man? Try these ten cities, where sensitive men are more likely to be spotted. Interestingly, they are almost all located on the East Coast of the United States.

The ten cities in the United States full of sensitive men:

  1. Pompano Beach, Florida

Looking for love with a thoughtful man? Pack your sunscreen and head southeast!

  1. Roanoke, Virginia

As they say, Virginia is for lovers – of good, old-fashioned sensitivity.

  1. West Hollywood, California

Go west, young man – and bring with you a sense of perception and understanding.

  1. Nashville, Tennessee

Perhaps love is waiting in the wings with an acoustic guitar and chart-topping ballad – about you!

  1. Buffalo, New York

Not all New Yorkers are “tough guy” stereotypes! In Buffalo, the men are more open with their emotions.

  1. Sarasota, Florida

Full of sunshine and men close to retirement age, Sarasota is the place to seek a sensitive older man.

  1. Greenville, South Carolina

One of two Carolina cities to take a place on the list, Greenville is a beautiful city, full of men who can appreciate the sentiment!

  1. Wilmington, North Carolina

North Carolina is home to at least one city where sensitive men are to be found.

  1. Indianapolis, Indiana

Meet a simple, sensitive man in a mid-West city like Indianapolis.

  1. Staten Island, New York

Not far from the busy island of Manhattan, a more laid-back and receptive man is living on Staten Island.

Sensitivity and the modern man

Sure, some people still believe in the idea of a caveman with bravado, or a man who values fists over feelings, as being more “masculine” than a man who has more sensitive traits. But we’re here to tell you, with the help of Psychology Today, that being a sensitive man has some distinct advantages in the modern world.

Not sure if a sensitive man is the right romantic partner for you?

Check out this list of reasons that sensitive lovers are superior, published in the Huffington Post by a licensed marriage and family therapist with more than 20 years of experience as a counselor. Benefits of being sensitive include higher empathy, being more perceptive, creativity, and excellent self-care habits – all pretty desirable traits in a partner, if you ask us!

10 Cities Full of Romantic Men

Popular culture paints a confusing picture about men and romance. Harlequin romance novels and romantic comedies always feature romantic heroes who make huge efforts or sacrifices to show the object of their affections how deep and passionate their love it.

Even in less extravagant gestures than the lion-cloth clad men who grace the covers of trashy romance novels, there’s Jack letting Kate live by getting into the water in Titanic. There’s Richard Gere, ascending a fire escape to proclaim his love for Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman. There’s John Cusak, Say Anything, the boom box – need I say more?

Where have all the romantic men gone?

The specter of the man who makes oversized romantic gestures for women is alive and well in Hollywood- but what about in your neck of the woods? Are there any romantic types in your city? Keep reading to find out!

According to some psychologists and counselors, romance for a man really begins with strong communication and your undivided attention. Showing your partner that he can trust you, that you are listening, that you are engaged, and establishing eye contact can help create a safe feeling of intimacy and romance with your man.

10 cities in the U.S. with the most romantic men

Here’s a of the 10 cities in the United States that are most full of romantic men. Their “Top 10 Cities to Find a Romantic Man” are:

  1. San Francisco, CA
  2. Portland, OR
  3. Austin, TX
  4. Salt Lake City, UT
  5. Hartford, CT
  6. Boston, MA
  7. Seattle, WA
  8. New York, NY
  9. Los Angeles, CA
  10. Washington D.C.

What do you think of the cities where the most romantic men in the United States can be found? Have you dated a romantic guy in one of these locales? Is your city missing from the list, but your man is the world’s biggest Casanova? Let us know!

Romance is different for everyone

Of course, with subjective lists such as these, it can be easy to forget a simple truth: everyone expresses emotions, especially those linked to complex topic like romance, in unique ways. What one person considers a grand romantic gesture, others may think of as the bare minimum. Men don’t always consider the same things to be romantic that you do, but there’s generally one thing that he will associate with intimacy. However, it’s important to keep in mind that physical intimacy is not the same as a romantic closeness.

 

10 PDA Friendly Cities

Whether you’re heading out for a no-holds-barred vacation with a wild group, or searching for the perfect place to enjoy a hands-on honeymoon, there are some cities around the country of the United States that react more kindly to PDA (public displays of affection) than others!

Interested in a getaway to some of the most romantic – or at least the most romance-friendly – cities in the country? Keep reading – some are right here in the United States!

Here are the most PDA friendly cities in America

  1. Honolulu, Hawaii

The Hawaiian culture have long involved welcoming visitors to the island state with a necklace of flowers known as a “lei,” so it’s no surprise that the beautiful chain of islands is regarded as the most PDA-friendly city in the country!

(Visitors ‘get lei’d’ – get it?)

The romantic setting of volcanic backdrops, lush rainforests, expanses of the Pacific Ocean, and the general environment of being in Hawaii lend themselves to affectionate moods!

Is it the Hawaiian culture? The laidback atmosphere? The serene setting? Whatever the case, Hawaii is for lovers!

  1. Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania

Were you as surprised as we were to see good ol’ Pittsburgh, PA at almost the tip-top of a list about PDA-friendly cities?

  1. Lexington, Kentucky

In Lexington, public gestures of affection are welcome.

  1. Charleston, West Virgina

No, Virginia – West Virginia is for lovers.

  1. New York City, New York

How is the Big Apple positioned halfway down the list – and yet still above Las Vegas?

  1. Fresno, California

The only city on the West Coast of the United States to make the list, Fresno is the fifth-largest city in California.

  1. Waco, Texas

A small town situated between Dallas and Austin in the sprawling state of Texas, Waco is a unique stop along the way for a couple in search of a PDA-friendly city.

  1. Cedar Rapids, Iowa

Maybe the Ed Helms movie helped Cedar Rapids develop a welcome attitude toward PDA?

  1. Syracuse, New York

Along with NYC, Syracuse in upstate New York welcomes handholding and other public displays of affection.

  1. Des Moines, Iowa

Two cities in Iowa made the list of most PDA friendly cities in the United States, but not one from Florida. See, you can learn something new every day!

PDA compatibility can help you and your romantic partner feel more comfortable in your relationship. If one of you is more interested in displaying affection publicly than the other, it could lead to conflict or miscommunication. Check out this blog for some ideas about how to determine if you and your partner have PDA compatibility.

Not interested in public displays of affection? Plan your next trip as a couple to the Fort Myers and Naples area of Florida!