Distance Makes the Heart Grow Fonder: True or False?

Long distance relationships are a terrible idea, so says society. But I happen to believe it is all about the relationship and how much effort is given. Distance relationships usually fail because one person slowly stops giving it their best effort and they start forgetting how much the small things matter.

It’s hard to carry on with a relationship when they are not physically there with you, but it’s not impossible. You have to have matched effort between you and your significant other. Now more than ever is it important to do the little things. Sending those flowers, becoming pen pals, making time to talk to each other every day. And honestly with technology today you could even have a virtual date night.

Like the old saying goes, “If there’s a will, there’s a way.”

So here are some tips on how to overcome the distance:

Try to see the silver lining while you live away from your love. It is that much more special when you see them after so long. What an amazing feeling to see someone you love after only being able to talk on the phone or write to each other. There is nothing like it.

Be grateful for the quality of your conversations. If you are willing to commit to talking each day, you can really learn a lot about your significant other. You will be able to learn and really listen to what they’re saying without any physical tension getting in the way.

If you are determined to make this relationship work, not only is it great to do the little things and plan small surprises just to remind them you’re thinking of them, but take this opportunity to work on you. Pick a project. Pick a hobby that you’ve been wanting to try. This will help keep the conversations flowing. You will be able to talk about what you’re liking and disliking about your new hobby, and maybe one day you can teach your significant other what you’ve learned. This also will help keep you occupied so you aren’t obsessing with how long it’s been since you’ve seen them.

Just remember each time you make that extra effort you are strengthening your relationship. And the best thing about doing the little things is how much they are appreciated. Studies show that couples that see each other daily don’t tend to do those small things as much. Use this to spoil your loved one, show them you miss them.

After the stent apart is over you can count on having a stronger relationship than ever. But expect there to be an adjustment period. It is naïve to think that everything will be smooth sailing once you’re back together. You need that time to adjust. You and your significant other may have been apart for months at a time and now you are in each other’s spaces.  Be patient and enjoy their company. Don’t push too hard to be independent again, you both will find your groove and you’ll finally be able to do all those things you daydreamed about over the phone together.