Dinner Date Dos and Don’ts

There are too many faux pas to keep track of in this day and age, and any normal person is likely to commit at least one during the length of a dinner date. While this may seem unavoidable due to the nerves that come along with dating someone you met online, we’ve put together a list of the most important things to keep in mind so that you seem cool and collected. Here are the essential dos and don’ts of dinner dates:

Do:

Ask questions—make the conversation about them

Everyone loves to talk about themselves. When you ask people about themselves, they tend to think of you as a more interesting person. This is a great way to get conversation going if you are shy, or know that you have a hard time opening up to people. By letting them talk about themselves, it makes them feel valued and like they just had a really great conversation.

Be considerate

The person you are on a date with is bound to be nervous, especially if you are seriously interested in each other. Be aware of this and do your best to make them feel at ease. The best way to do this is to ask them simple questions and allow them to start feeling comfortable talking to you. It is also important to set up an environment where they don’t feel out of place.

Leave your baggage at the door

The fastest way to put a damper on a date is by talking about all your failed romances. Chances are that if you’re still talking about your ex- you are not yet over your ex- or ready to start dating again. Whether you’re just trying to get back out there or if you’re looking to start a new long-term romance, don’t bring up all your old baggage. It shows insecurity and uncertainty that you are serious about the person you are on a date with.

Smile
Just by smiling, you come of as a welcoming and caring person. It is the simplest gesture, but a genuine smile will make you feel happier and help to put the other person at ease.

Don’t:

Come on too strong

Keep conversation light and casual. While you might think very deeply, have a lot of complex thoughts, or maybe just really want to get married and have a family, keep it under wraps. Coming on too strong can scare your partner away and make them feel pressured to be more or commit to sharing more about themselves than they might be prepared to. It might be beneficial to come with some questions prepared that you want to know about them, or some fun stories that you can share if they fit into the conversation.

Forget the traditional rules of dating and etiquette

It’s understandable if you want to make the most of the time you have with the person, but if you are chewing, then your mouth should be closed. It is simple rules like this that can so often get overlooked in the nervousness and excitement of a date, but they are so vital. If you are prone to getting anxious and forgetting simple manners, do your best to simply slow down. Slow down your talking, slow down your eating, slow down your drinking. Be aware of what you are doing and how you are being perceived by your date. And don’t forget “manners make the man”.

Change who you are to fit what you think your date wants in a partner

The most important thing to remember is to simply be yourself. If that means throwing out everything else mentioned in this article, then do it. At the end of the day, if the person you are with doesn’t like you for who you are, then it’s not going to work. You want someone who wants you for you, in spite of all your little oddities.