Dating Tips for a Single Parent

Being a single parent is tough. Sometimes it feels like you never have any time to yourself.  It can be hard to keep your social life in order, much less your romantic life. However, it is important to make time for yourself, and once you feel like you’re ready to get back out there, here are some tips to help your first dates go well.

Make sure that they know you have kids

Being a parent is probably the most important aspect of your life. If someone is interested in dating you, they have to understand that you are a package deal. By being upfront with the person about your children, it creates an honest environment for you both. Also, by getting it out there, you can be at ease knowing that the person accepts you as you are, and is open to the idea of you having children. Telling them will be one less worry on your mind.

Don’t make your children the center of your date

You are on the date to get to know each other. While your kids are a central part of your life, you have an identity outside of your children. Allow your date to get to know who you are outside of your role as a parent. After all, they came on a date with you, not your children. Feel free to mention them, but make the date about the two of you.

Don’t get your child involved too soon

Only you can know when the right time is for your child to meet the person you are dating, but be wary of allowing them to meet too soon. Children get attached easily and it would be unfair to have them meet every person that you go on a date with. When they do meet, feel free to introduce your partner as a friend so that they don’t start fantasizing about the idea of them joining the family before either of you are prepared to promise that to your child.

Dress like a single person, not a single parent

It is easy to get so caught up in your children that you forget to keep up with fashion trends or update your wardrobe from time to time. When you are on a date, it is worth your time to buy yourself a new outfit, or even a couple of updated pieces so that you look fresh and feel less like a single parent and more like a single person.

Be honest about how you’re feeling

It can be scary to get into the dating game as a single person, so if you’re feeling some anxiety about it, be honest. More than likely, your date will be sympathetic and supportive, giving you the time and space you need to feel comfortable. If your date does not provide this for you, then they really aren’t the type of person you want to be dating anyways. Your feelings are always valid.

Remember that it’s okay to take time out for yourself

For single parents reentering the dating pool, there can be a lot of hard feelings to cope with. Remember, it is okay to take time out for yourself. It will give your child a better quality of life if you are able to improve your health by unwinding once in a while. You are allowed to do things for yourself, and getting back in the dating game should be a guiltless pleasure.